How to Reconnect with Your Womb: Meditation, Massages & More
As women, we rarely think about the womb until we experience painful periods and gynaecological issues, or want to get pregnant. Beyond its physical functions, the womb holds much more spiritual resonance than we’re often aware of, and healers have long regarded this part as an energetic point that stores our feminine energy – a holy source from which creativity, sensuality and sense of safety are derived. Unlike a woman’s physical womb, the spiritual womb is believed to be an energetic centre in all humans, inclusive of women and men – as well as women who have had a full hysterectomy.
This crucial energetic point also links the heart and to the mind. When we are fully grounded in our wombs, we are able to fulfil our higher needs of connection and love. The womb is linked to the sacral chakra, believed to be the foundation of sensuality and pleasure. Similarly, the lower dantian point referred to in Eastern medicine, situated a few finger widths below the navel, is regarded as the epicentre from which our qi life force flows.
Why the womb needs healing
Healers attribute our separation from our wombs with conditioning beginning in our childhood, continuing into our pubescent and throughout our adult years as women. We grow up being bombarded with negative beliefs of what it is to be a woman, ranging from how our bodies should look to how we ought to behave as “good girls”.
“We live in a world that doesn’t honour the feminine. If you look at all the things that women experience, such as period pains, and reproductive and relationship issues, it’s easy to see that there are so many things that go awry. We have the notion that the female body is a pathology we can’t figure out and we don’t know what’s ‘wrong’ with it. Rather than thinking of ways we can control it, we should begin to think of the female body as perfect, intact and asking why we’re out of sync with ourselves,” says Lana Kevic, a healer based in Toronto offering online womb healing and blessing courses, as well as women’s circles to help people connect with the feminine.
“We have the notion that the female body is a pathology we can’t figure out and we don’t know what’s ‘wrong’ with it. Rather than thinking of ways we can control it, we should begin to think of the female body as perfect, intact and asking why we’re out of sync with ourselves…”
Am I disconnected from my womb?
The first symptoms of disconnection from our wombs shows up in our monthly cycles. Many women go through life with painful periods, PMS, reproductive challenges and difficulties with their intimacy and relationships thinking that it’s normal and part of the feminine experience. Another telltale sign of disconnection with the womb is anxiety.
Through guided womb meditations, individuals can hone into the body, tune into their intuition and feel grounded.
“Through womb healing and blessings, we see this part of ourselves as divine and good. Prior to doing this work, no one ever told me that my womb and yoni – [the Sanskit word for womb] – are healthy or holy, and that it’s safe to explore. Womb healing isn’t only about the trauma and physical issues we have to clear, it’s also about what’s possible once we let go and have a connection with our bodies,” says Kevic.
Womb healing for better sex
Relationship and intimacy coach Nathalie Sommers believes that whenever we experience shame, stress or fear, our fight-or-flight psoas muscle connecting our inner thighs and hips along the lumbar spine contracts, leading to pent-up tension that restricts our sexual pleasure.
“A lot of women have this idea that they should be doing something inside the bedroom. They’re so much inside their head that they’re disconnected from their own pleasure. What I show them is how to lovingly connect to their wombs and learn how to feel, to surrender,” says Sommers. “The more we learn how to surrender and trust ourselves, and we go into the feminine by opening ourselves up to feeling and openness, we become magnetic. We are able to invite so much more into our lives.”
A meditation exercise to connect with the womb
Start by standing upright with your feet firmly planted on the ground. Make an inverted triangle by connecting both thumbs and index fingers together. Position your triangle onto your lower belly, about three-inches from your navel, with your thumbs in line with your pubic bone. Take a deep inhale and breathe into this space. Feel how connected this feels, or observe how uncomfortable and constricted this space is. Continue to breathe into that space. Take a couple of sighs to release and sink in further to see what comes up. There can be a tightness in the whole pelvic area when first starting to connect with the womb, this is normal and can be released by continuing to meditate, move and release the repression of old traumas stored in this area of the body.
Books that delve deeper
Female Energy Awakening by Miranda Gray, creator of Worldwide Womb Blessings, speaks primarily to feminine archetypal energies inspired by the Celtic tradition.
Sacred Woman by Queen Afua is a beautiful and deeply mystical, esoteric guide drawn from Afrakan wisdom and spirituality, beloved by the likes of Jada Pinkett Smith.
Wild Feminine by Tami Lynn Kent, a pelvic-care practitioner, offers physical and energetic practices based on healing her clients.